To be successful with Dialectical Behavior Therapy, you need to develop the capacity be motivated and open to experience change and growth. You need to know that change can be hard and that you are doing a wonderful thing by taking it on. You are to be commended and honored.
You need to know that change takes commitment to making your life better and trying these DBT Skills of Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance. You need to know that you need to commit yourself by practicing these skills in your personal and professional lives and also in your daily life as you interact with all that New York City has to offer.
You need to develop a willingness to take a reflective stance to your life and be willing to see what is working and what is not. You need to develop the ability to have hopes and dreams, even if they are teeny-tiny or lofty; you need both. You need to know that change takes time; you need to be both patient with yourself and also make an effort to grow each day. You need to find the humor and learn to laugh at life and also learn to take things seriously, each in its due time.
Nothing needs to be complete in order to start DBT. You just need the beginning of the awareness of these elements to be on you way. The rest will unfold in its course, following your increased commitment and willingness.
I can work with you to help you begin to cultivate a more skillful life, to cheerlead you, and to offer you counsel.